“In many ways, I do think that there is a greater stigma among African American culture than among white cultures. I live in southern California, and many white people will freely reference ‘seeing a therapist’ in normal conversation. Black people don’t do that. Seeing a therapist is generally seen as a sign of weakness or a lack of faith. There is still an active mythos of “the strong black woman,” who is supposed to be strong and present and capable for everyone in her family–and neglects her own needs. In the midst of a depressive episode, I had a friend say to me, ‘We are the descendants of those who survived the Middle Passage and slavery. Whatever you’re going through cannot be that bad.’ I was so hurt and angry by that statement. No, depression isn’t human trafficking, genocide or slavery, but it is real death-threatening pain to me. And of course, there are those who did not survive those travesties. But that comment just made me feel small and selfish and far worse than before. It made me wish I had never said anything at all.”—
And sometimes professional mental health care is not ideal or nor accessible. So we seek support among each other. But when fellow Black people bring up “slavery was worse!” or yell out "pray about it!" as a silencing tactic because either belief in the infallible Black woman who can endure endless abuse (as created by White supremacy) or discomfort with addressing mental health head on, they ignore the fact that the impact of slavery is still felt today and mental health issues still exist today. There is no line in time where Black people were magically healed and slavery can be forgotten nor existing oppression today be silenced.
“Be with someone who you don’t have to hide from, in any way. Whether it’s your morning face before you’ve put your make up on, an embarrassing story to tell about something that happened on your way home, or an ambition you’ve had since you were six… make sure you end up with someone who knows all of it and still loves you. A person you can tell your whole life to is a person worth spending a life with.”—these-greatexpectations (via thatkindofwoman)
“The truth is that I’m genuinely a shy, socially awkward, introverted person. At a big party, I’m like Bambie in the headlights. It’s too much stimulation for me, which is why I end up going to the bathroom! I need time outs! I get anxious. I’m terrible at small talk and I have a ridiculously short attention span.”—Emma Watson (via watsonlove)
“if you can look at another black woman, and not criticize her. not judge her clothing, her hair, her skin. her body. her speech. her manner. if you can see her, and feel a yes in your eyes. an exhale. an acknowledgment of your being. a tenderness and pride in your breathe. this is when you know you are no longer seeing her. yourself. with the eyes of racism. when you will know that your eyes are yours again.”—nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)
“Students who acquire large debts putting themselves through school are unlikely to think about changing society. When you trap people in a system of debt they can’t afford the time to think. Tuition fee increases are a “disciplinary technique,” and, by the time students graduate, they are not only loaded with debt, but have also internalized the “disciplinarian culture.” This makes them efficient components of the consumer economy.”—Noam Chomsky (via tusha)
Sadly my life right now. I’m too poor to live life on my own terms, too poor to take risks. The consequences of having outrageous student loan debt…
“I want to love you wildly. I don’t want words, but inarticulate cries, meaningless, from the bottom of my most primitive being, that flow from my belly like honey. A piercing joy, that leaves me empty, conquered, silenced.”—Anaïs Nin (via rabbitinthemoon)